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Get paid what you’re worth – closing the gender pay gap

4 May 2022
Reading time: 5 minutes


Posted by Anika Forsman , 237 Comments

With the rising costs of living, talk of the ‘great resignation’ and a talent shortage to boot, is now the right time to ask for that raise, or go large on negotiations if you’ve landed that new role?

For many women asking to be paid what they are worth makes for a challenging, sometimes uncomfortable conversation. And for some, asking about pay can be difficult or inappropriate due to a range of cultural and personal reasons.

When Sarah landed her dream role, she had already asked what the salary band was, and knew she needed to negotiate the best deal possible once she had the offer.

“In the past I’ve not felt comfortable asking for more money and often regretted it. I know now that negotiation is a standard part of the recruitment process,” she says.

“I am also conscious that future pay increases are usually going to be capped, so if you don’t get within a decent ballpark of what you want at contract signing time, it will take a while to get there once you are in the role.”

Know your worth

Dr Jo Cribb, co-founder of Mind the Gap and co-author of Take Your Space: Successful Women Share Their Secrets, says it pays to know what you’re worth before you hit the negotiating table.

“Do your research. Talk to recruiters to get a benchmark for what similar roles and skillsets are paying, or check out other jobs being advertised. Chat to your peers or people you know in the industry,” she says.

“Talking about pay is uncomfortable, but we all have the right to ask. Once you know what you’re worth, have the confidence to highlight this to your prospective employer.”

Most employers will have some wriggle room on what they offer, but it pays to consider the full package and not just the pay. It’s a good idea to weigh up what is also important to you. That might be flexibility, staff benefits like higher contributions to KiwiSaver, extended parental leave or professional development opportunities.

Check out our KiwiSaver calculator to see what the difference can be if you’re employer contributes 6% compared to 3% to your balance over time. This can really add up!

Asking for a raise

The ‘great resignation’ or ‘great reshuffle’ is making headlines, with reports of millions of people chucking in their jobs around the world for other opportunities.

It’s certainly causing many employers to stop and think about the best ways they can retain their staff – and they’re thinking more broadly than what they can pay their people.

For the most part coming in cold and asking for a pay raise is probably not the best approach. You really want to hinge it on performance or if you’ve ended up taking on more responsibilities. Have a read of your company’s renumeration policy and practices. Often the best time to do this is around annual performance reviews.

You can apply some of the same approaches you use when negotiating a new role. Do a bit of research to know what you’re worth, but use the added weight of being able to demonstrate what you’ve achieved in your current role to make your case.

A top media exec, who has done her fair share of hiring people and performance reviews, recommends coming armed with a list of your achievements and some clear points about why you deserve to be paid more.

She would like to see more women having the confidence to ask for what they’re worth.

“In my experience as a manager, men don’t think twice about asking for more money, but frustratingly women just aren’t asking like their male counterparts. I’ve seen plenty of scenarios where women are happy to accept an offer for the same role at a lower salary to a male candidate, who will almost always try and push it up.”

Mind the gender pay gap

Across the board, Kiwis generally don’t like talking about money – particularly sharing what each of us get paid. This culture of pay secrecy is doing nothing to help the close the gender and ethnic pay gaps experienced by women, Māori and Pacific Peoples.

According to Stats NZ, the gender pay gap is 9.1% and has remained stubbornly around 9-10% for the last decade.

Jo says if we can start normalising conversations about pay and pay gaps, we will encourage greater transparency and we can bridge the pay disparities in Aotearoa.

“Not talking about pay gaps makes it worse. About 20% of the gender pay gap in Aotearoa New Zealand can be accounted for by differences between men and women in education, occupation choice, age, type of work and family responsibilities.

“The remaining 80% cannot be easily explained other than by behaviour, attitudes and assumptions about women in work, including unconscious bias and discrimination.

“We want an Aotearoa New Zealand where everyone is paid fairly for their work, where pay discrimination based on ethnicity, gender or ability no longer exists.”

Things to think about when it comes to your pay

  1. Don’t be afraid to ask for more money.
  2. Work out what you’re worth and why your skills are so valuable.
  3. Look at the full package, not just the pay.
  4. Pick the right time to ask for a raise.
  5. Make it normal to talk about pay with your friends, whanau and work mates.

 

Comments (237)

Comments

  • Gravatar for Deborah

    5 May 22
    Deborah

    No. I don't think I have!

  • Gravatar for Jo

    5 May 22
    Jo

    I have not received a pay rise for 6 years, keep getting told we are not making enough money, i gave up asking 2 years ago, but now we have new management i dont know how to do this to get a positive result

  • Gravatar for

    5 May 22

    I've tried negotiating just once before and it was really difficult, as both of us got worked up during the conversation. It's made me wonder what the point is in pushing for more, because it is easier to just not make a big deal about it. I think sometimes the only way is to be offered a job with higher pay elsewhere to get what you want.

  • Gravatar for

    5 May 22

    Yes I asked for a raise numerous as I had been with the company for 2 years and learnt SO MUCH in the time I had been there but it took a long time for my efforts to be recognized.

  • Gravatar for Jane

    5 May 22
    Jane

    I've struggled with this dynamic, it seems when I ask for a raise it gets rejected but when I don't ask I do get it. So hard to know how to grapple with this.

  • Gravatar for

    5 May 22

    I have going into a new position where I was taking a pay cut for a job I really wanted. It was an NGO so there wasn't much wiggle room for a pay rise and I didn't have the confidence to keep pursuing the matter, or the right words.

  • Gravatar for Kokila

    5 May 22
    Kokila

    I have always asked but shut down so often that I am scared to ask, as I don't know what to ask or how to counter offer if was given less amount. This booklet will really help in taking that first step forward. Thank you for this article.

  • Gravatar for Emma

    5 May 22
    Emma

    I have never asked for a raise; I work as a freelancer so I set my own rate. But I'm guilty of charging less than my worth because my industry is secretive about what standard rates are.

  • Gravatar for Hannah

    5 May 22
    Hannah

    I havnt really ever negotiated salary upon initial employment, however once I have the job I ask for a pay raise at every review. Don't ask you don't get!

  • Gravatar for

    5 May 22

    I'm definitely too scared to ask for pay rises, I'm not good at challenging conversations. I have instead relied on automatic increases (luckily been in organisations where this has been possible).
    I think this book may help me!

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