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With the rising costs of living, talk of the ‘great resignation’ and a talent shortage to boot, is now the right time to ask for that raise, or go large on negotiations if you’ve landed that new role?

For many women asking to be paid what they are worth makes for a challenging, sometimes uncomfortable conversation. And for some, asking about pay can be difficult or inappropriate due to a range of cultural and personal reasons.

When Sarah landed her dream role, she had already asked what the salary band was, and knew she needed to negotiate the best deal possible once she had the offer.

“In the past I’ve not felt comfortable asking for more money and often regretted it. I know now that negotiation is a standard part of the recruitment process,” she says.

“I am also conscious that future pay increases are usually going to be capped, so if you don’t get within a decent ballpark of what you want at contract signing time, it will take a while to get there once you are in the role.”

Know your worth

Dr Jo Cribb, co-founder of Mind the Gap and co-author of Take Your Space: Successful Women Share Their Secrets, says it pays to know what you’re worth before you hit the negotiating table.

“Do your research. Talk to recruiters to get a benchmark for what similar roles and skillsets are paying, or check out other jobs being advertised. Chat to your peers or people you know in the industry,” she says.

“Talking about pay is uncomfortable, but we all have the right to ask. Once you know what you’re worth, have the confidence to highlight this to your prospective employer.”

Most employers will have some wriggle room on what they offer, but it pays to consider the full package and not just the pay. It’s a good idea to weigh up what is also important to you. That might be flexibility, staff benefits like higher contributions to KiwiSaver, extended parental leave or professional development opportunities.

Check out our KiwiSaver calculator to see what the difference can be if you’re employer contributes 6% compared to 3% to your balance over time. This can really add up!

Asking for a raise

The ‘great resignation’ or ‘great reshuffle’ is making headlines, with reports of millions of people chucking in their jobs around the world for other opportunities.

It’s certainly causing many employers to stop and think about the best ways they can retain their staff – and they’re thinking more broadly than what they can pay their people.

For the most part coming in cold and asking for a pay raise is probably not the best approach. You really want to hinge it on performance or if you’ve ended up taking on more responsibilities. Have a read of your company’s renumeration policy and practices. Often the best time to do this is around annual performance reviews.

You can apply some of the same approaches you use when negotiating a new role. Do a bit of research to know what you’re worth, but use the added weight of being able to demonstrate what you’ve achieved in your current role to make your case.

A top media exec, who has done her fair share of hiring people and performance reviews, recommends coming armed with a list of your achievements and some clear points about why you deserve to be paid more.

She would like to see more women having the confidence to ask for what they’re worth.

“In my experience as a manager, men don’t think twice about asking for more money, but frustratingly women just aren’t asking like their male counterparts. I’ve seen plenty of scenarios where women are happy to accept an offer for the same role at a lower salary to a male candidate, who will almost always try and push it up.”

Mind the gender pay gap

Across the board, Kiwis generally don’t like talking about money – particularly sharing what each of us get paid. This culture of pay secrecy is doing nothing to help the close the gender and ethnic pay gaps experienced by women, Māori and Pacific Peoples.

According to Stats NZ, the gender pay gap is 9.1% and has remained stubbornly around 9-10% for the last decade.

Jo says if we can start normalising conversations about pay and pay gaps, we will encourage greater transparency and we can bridge the pay disparities in Aotearoa.

“Not talking about pay gaps makes it worse. About 20% of the gender pay gap in Aotearoa New Zealand can be accounted for by differences between men and women in education, occupation choice, age, type of work and family responsibilities.

“The remaining 80% cannot be easily explained other than by behaviour, attitudes and assumptions about women in work, including unconscious bias and discrimination.

“We want an Aotearoa New Zealand where everyone is paid fairly for their work, where pay discrimination based on ethnicity, gender or ability no longer exists.”

Things to think about when it comes to your pay

  1. Don’t be afraid to ask for more money.
  2. Work out what you’re worth and why your skills are so valuable.
  3. Look at the full package, not just the pay.
  4. Pick the right time to ask for a raise.
  5. Make it normal to talk about pay with your friends, whanau and work mates.

Enter to win 1 of 5 copies of Dr Jo Cribb’s book

We have 5 copies to give away of Take Your Space: Successful Women Share their Secrets, by Dr Jo Cribb and Rachel Petero.

Take Your Space is an essential resource drawn from 16 diverse and successful women who want to help you to take one step forward; a step towards success. Eight chapters, two authors, one purpose. To get you to take that one step forward.

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Comments (229)

Gravatar for Debbie


2:02pm | 17 May 2022

I have negotiated for a higher salary. It was a bit scary, but I then realised that I was worth the extra money, and if they didn't agree to what I wanted, then I had decided it was time to look for a new role where I would be appreciated and paid what I am worth.

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6:48am | 17 May 2022

I have never had the courage to ask for a pay rise even after years of dedication at various Jobs. But after reading the outlines of the amazing book above, it has taught me to step out of my comfort zone and take the time and have the courage to ask and get what I'm worth, and mostly, don't be afraid, as if you don't ask, you'll never get.

Gravatar for Mihi


7:29pm | 15 May 2022

I have negotiated once. It was so scary and I felt way out of my league. I managed to get a little extra but I felt like I didn't get my worth or have the tools to do it right.

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2:45pm | 15 May 2022

Yes – I have asked for a raise in the past and was successful – it can be daunting but helps to come prepared and having done market research :)

Gravatar for Ruby


7:30pm | 14 May 2022

Yes, I've negotiated a higher salary before starting a new role.

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10:16am | 12 May 2022

I have asked for a pay rise in the past, done my research and had a list of reasons but I was still turned down... this book is just what I need to gain confidence in myself to get paid well for the job I do.

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9:48am | 12 May 2022

Yes I have asked for a pay rise numerous times, but it is never comfortable. I always make sure I have documented reasons why I should be entitled to one. I am currently working part-time while I pursue part-time study. Once I graduate I will need to ask my employer for a payrise (as I plan on staying with the same company I currently work for). I am interested in what suggestions this book has to help me as I navigate this.

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5:33pm | 9 May 2022

I have never asked for a raise, I've just accepted the pay that's offered. I'd like to read this book to help me gain confidence and skills to make the full contribution I can make!

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Tina Rose

11:59am | 9 May 2022

I have always felt the fear and done it anyway - asked to be paid what I know I am worth. I have now owned my own business for 11 years and coach other wahine toa who I employ to do the same! Men have no issue in this department...

Gravatar for Kasey


9:45am | 9 May 2022

I have never asked or a pay rise. I would like to know how to do this without being overreaching or undervalued